Difference between yesterday’s and today’s wives

Comparative Analysis Between Wives of Today and Those of Yesterday:

1). Yesterday’s Wives :
Welcome my husband, hope the office was not stressful., your favorite food is ready, let me lead you to the bathroom first, then you take your dinner, you look so tired, am sure you’ll be okay after taking your dinner, welcome my one and only.

Today’s Wives:
Please don’t put unnecessary pressure on me, you can go to the fridge pick up the stew, microwave it and boil the remaining rice, I am your wife and not your cook.

2). Yesterday’s Wives:
Darling stop thinking about our lack of money. It’s going to be temporary. God will see us through and we are going to come out of it stronger. After all, we can still feed ourselves and the children. We need to give the Almighty God that glory. I am with you through thick and thin, my husband, the owner of my dowry.

Today’s Wives:_______________Look I am sick and tired of living in this abject poverty with you. Why did you bring me to your house when you know that you are not ready for marriage? Every day is one complaint or the other. Are you the Complainant General of Uganda or Africa? We don’t have cars, our house is Face me and I slap you, when your mates are in Bangalos. Look, if you don’t find solutions to your problems, you will come back and not find me in this your rotten house.

3). Yesterday’s Wives: ____________My husband, we only have 2 children, don’t you think we should have more. You know children are gifts and blessings from God. And the more the merrier.

Today’s Wives:_______________Look am sick and tired of this marriage. You won’t allow me to rest by your constant urge to have more children. I am okay with our two children. I can’t allow you to spoil my figure 8 by bearing another 4 children. You are so wicked that I feel you want to spoil my psychedelic looks. If you dare force me, I will sue you for rape.

4). Yesterday’s Wives: ___________My husband, take heart and don’t worry. I shall go with you to kabong. Your being transferred from Kampala to Kabong might be a blessing in disguise. We shall take the advantage of the remote karamojongs to do businesses there. Some disappointments could be a blessing in disguise.

Today’s Wives:______________Me I can’t follow you to Kabong oo. God forbid this bad thing. From Kampala to Kabong? I can’t cope with such a demotion. To start living in a village? You had better look for another wife. I can’t live in a city without silver birds, shopping malls, Supermarket or Dunes

5) Yesterday’s Wives: __________My husband, I have enough clothes. This 20,000 you are giving me, pls keep it and save for a rainy day.

Today’s Wives: ________________Why are you so stingy? Do you have super glue in your palms?What an insult. What kind of shopping do you want me to do with 20,000?What can I buy? Is it Swiss lace or Dubai gold. I am disappointed in you. Your mates are giving their wives $5000 to shop, here you are humiliating me with UGX. I don’t blame you. It is because I refused to marry Minister Alphonzo that’s why you are messing up with me.

Yesterday’s wives____ Darling our children will resume next week, I have bought new bags and sandals for them, I have also kept some money for their text books, may God bless u for their tuition fees.

Today’s wives _ Your children are resuming next week, I don’t want to hear story of no money oo, they will change their school bags, sandals, water bottles etc and their textbooks, make sure the money is completed this time oo, afterall they bear your surname not mine.

Uhhhm!! Surely there are still some good wives in today’s wives.
But the question is, where do you belong? Yesterday or Today? 😳😳

Self-assessment ✍🏾

I woke up thinking about my relationship journey and understand why I’m still single and the quality not quantity of partners at our disposal. Read, Reflect on your own situation and come to your own individual conclusion. “It’s better to admit that you haven’t found the right person for you yet than to convince yourself that a toxic boy/girl is the boy/girl you’re meant to be with. It’s better to give yourself the love you need than to give your whole heart to someone who will only meet you halfway. It’s better to say you’re single than it’s complicated. It’s better to be happy on your own than miserable with someone else. It’s better to be single than to be in an almost relationship, because almost isn’t enough. You deserve more. You deserve reliability, consistency, love. You deserve someone who will make plans with you a week in advance, because he wants to have time to clean up his apartment and plan the perfect date to impress you. Someone who will answer your emergency texts, even if it’s two in the morning and he has to wake up for work at six. You deserve someone who is not only willing, but eager to commit to you. Someone who will dedicate himself/herself to you and won’t have any doubt in his/her mind that he’s making the right decision. You deserve someone who will make you see that you’re worth a text back, you’re worth a relationship label, and you’re worth all of his time and attention. You deserve so much more than an almost. You deserve someone who says what he’s thinking, who gives as much as he accepts, who keeps every promise and never disappoints you.”

Let us keep in mind that we can’t force anyone to love us. We shouldn’t beg someone to stay when they want to leave. That’s what love is all about FREEDOM. However, the END OF LOVE IS NOT THE END OF LIFE. It should be the beginning of an understanding that love SOMETIMES LEAVES FOR A REASON, BUT NEVER LEAVES WITHOUT A LESSON. If someone truly loves you, they will never give you a reason to doubt it. Anyone can come into your life and say how much they love you, but it takes someone really special to stay in your life and prove how much they love you. Sometimes it takes a while to find the right person, but the right person is always worth the wait. Don’t rush my friend, just take it slow. You’ll find someone who will love you the way you are.

For really, we usually lose so much energy in :Who is better then who, whose church is anointed, who are pretending, who inherited, who is pride or show off, who we don’t like, such things drain so much energy and consume too much time in the 24hours God gives us dairy! Let’s replace them with :How and where to study to be a better person, organizing chat shows where youths can share their ideas freely, how to lead our generation out of slumberios ambetions etc